Marriage as Divorce

“Marriage, in what is evidently its most popular version, is now on the one hand an intimate ‘relationship’ involving (ideally) two successful careerists in the same bed, and on the other hand a sort of private political system in which rights and interests must be constantly asserted and defended. Marriage, in other words, has now taken the form of divorce: a prolonged and impassioned negotiation as to how things shall be divided.”

Wendell Berry, as quoted by Alan Jacobs, here.


  1. Wendell Berry poetry was read at my wedding. I listen when the man “speaks.” This is a warning, and I agree with mKhulu, real marriage is better. Berry is trying to caution us. Thanks for an interesting post!

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